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“What’s your DJ name?”

I was chair dancing to the music for an hour and decided to walk on stage and ask this tall, dark be speckled musical creature (reminiscent of Malcolm X and had game like Miguel) what type of music he was playing. From our brief exchange, I learn that DJ guy didn’t have a pseudonym. He just went by his real name, which I happily recorded in my iPhone notes along with a link to his Mixcloud.

Shortly thereafter our conversation, my Tuesday night drinking turned into an exciting Google search session. And let me tell you, it didn’t take much to discover that not only was *DJ guy “award winning,” but seemingly works a full time job, has a Facebook and even does some marketing consulting as an online blog business. So I did what any smitten girl would do: I friend requested him and a day or so later he accepted!

I already know what you’re thinking: Isn’t this the normal thing one should do to block potential douche bags and guys with police records from your life? And, I’m going to tell you that it’s not normal behavior for me because I’ve dated several guys consecutively and they all had no presence on social media. Disregarded Facebook as irrelevant, weren’t the CEOs of companies for LinkedIn standards, and just didn’t get the point of sharing personal photos on Instagram. Though in retrospect, I always thought that if one of my previous beaus ever had a twitter, he’d definitely have thousands of followers. My ex-guys were so anti-social media because, perhaps, they thought it stunted their growth into men or just didn’t see the point of sharing intimate details of their glamorous or disastrous lives. Consequently, this lack of social presence in my past relationships opened up new territory in regard to this new person of interest’s online portfolio, created like a work of art.

So, when DJ guy and I had this two minute conversation, I couldn’t wait for the first date. From my own research, I found out all this information. Things about his career, what year he bought his first motorcycle and what ballet performance he was recently moved by via Instagram, easily digitally accessible. Guilt free, I knew I was committing a single girl sin. Was I giving up my chances of a relationship from pre-screening, fantasizing about what we could be, all from a rewarding Google search that conjured up premature feelings? Or perhaps, can social media be use for more of a catalyst to go for what I want?

I sent DJ guy a message after scanning his online resume to find some sort of connection, subject line: hi there.
My first message read: Hi, it’s the Melissa from the bar. Thanks for accepting my friend request. I see your interests include some of the interests, I’m interested in. Let’s connect.” I leave my name and number at the end.

DJ Guy responded within two hours.
“Yes, we should talk sometime & see what mutually beneficial opportunities we might uncover.” He also left his phone number, so I immediately texted him.
“Hi there, it’s Melissa…”
I don’t waste any time deciding to make the first moves.
“Hey, how are you? He texted.
“Good and you?”
“Just getting ready for my gig tonight. You should come out.”
“Oh yea, what’s on the playlist that will make me wanna come?”

Our text message conversations from there spiraled from music to business, to what type of food he likes cooking, referencing his Facebook and website like visual footnotes. Hash tag: food porn. I casually note that I saw this and that on his Facebook. I thought referring to his Google search number would be a dead giveaway that my hype personality may be all a jig, but he played along disregarding my blatant sarcasm- city guy!

On our second meet up, I happened to be randomly stopping by the bar after work for a drink as he was getting ready for his set. (Disclaimer: It’s not my fault he’s a dj at my neighborhood bar). I send him a quick text message while I was seductively looking over to watch him read it.

“I spy.”
After thirty minutes of unresponsiveness, I decided to walk over to the dj booth.

Enter: perky girl. He greeted me with a hug.

“Can you play a Beyoncé song?” I asked.

“You smell good.” He says.


“I want you.” he whispered as I watched him change the music to my song of choice.

Shockingly and a little aroused, there I was standing on the other side of the DJ booth feeling like I’ve been moved into this weird space of sexual observation and he had just the right view.

“Stand back.” he said. “Back more”, signaling with his hand stop as he mouthed “right there” with a thumbs up gesture.
“I wanted to see your tights.” He said. They were from Wolfords.

End Scene.

This was turning into a “How to Keep a Guy in 10 days via Facebook” type of game. Even though these meet-ups didn’t count as a first date (in my book), we were surely getting comfortable and I was very open about his social media presence from the start. Could it be that social media coup d’état is a turn off?

Finally after several days of random meet-ups and messaging, DJ Guy still hadn’t invited me to a cafe to discuss our “mutual beneficial opportunities.” While I can’t be for certain if it was because he was freaked out from all my knowledge of his social presence, I think it definitely had some association. In conclusion, I’ll stick to my usual bunch of guys (the social anti-ists), and staying away from social media and dating, for now. Moreover, for the record, DJ guy has been deleted on my Facebook. Though, what I learned is that social media is like a visual report card: its information to help you feel like you’re compatible with the person on the surface and yet you don’t have to go through the ringer to get it.

*Name as been changed.

UpSkale “Hair for a Cause” Hair Show

You are invited to “Hair for a Cause” Hair Show hosted by Platinum Hearts Events & Creations on March 23, 2014. This event will be in honor of two time breast cancer Survivor Angel Ligon and a local community member recently diagnosed with kidney failure in need of a kidney transplant, Gary Shepard. This is the 2nd show for a cause and the numbers are getting stronger. The proceeds from ticket sales and donation go directly to the recipients.
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Hair for a Cause will be featuring a few of La Grange, Georgia’s finest in the Beauty Industry, Ms. Danyelle “The Make Up Maven”, Makeup Artist, Courtland “La Mente De Shaheed”, Wig Creator and Mrs. Athena Dixon-Wheelous, Hair Stylist and Barber. They will all be showcasing their GOD-given talents in the Hair for a Cause Hair Show on March 23, 2014 at Del’Avant in LaGrange, GA. This awesome trio shares the passion on wanting to help women to find that beauty inside and let it shine out. With over 10 years experience they have been helping women all over Georgia to feel empowered. They are surly putting Georgia on the map in the Beauty Industry.

Here is a little background on our featured stylist that have volunteered their services for this awesome cause. When asked, “what drives you and why?” They answered, Danyelle: “An addict, I think I need rehab I’m so bad…lol I’ve been this way since childhood, since I was able to read and spell the words make up!!! My profession and passion for this industry chose me. But, I’m a skin care fan, so love the skin you’re in!”

Athena-“My passion is to bring the beauty outward!”

La Mente De Shaheed- “I make wigs because it is simply what I want to do. I am a fashion designer by trade. I have always had a niche for anything that was dealing with someone’s appearance (besides make-up). I didn’t choose this field, it chose me. The first wig that I ever made for someone was a deep purple and black A-symmetrical stacked bob for someone’s Halloween costume. They wanted to channel Nikki Minaj. In the meantime, my grandmother was battling cancer and she asked if I could make her a wig that wouldn’t scream, “I am wearing a wig!” That is what drove me to making lace units. Sadly she passed before I even started on one for her. I now make wigs for cancer patients, alopecia sufferers, and burn victims quite often. I do also just make wigs for commercial use (everyday people) as well!”

Thank you to all that have donated their time and skills for this great cause!

We ask that you please share this event to everyone that you know. This event was put together for people that are in need of prayers and monetary blessings.

To make donations please call 706-407-1891

Fashion designer L’Wren Scott dead: Mick Jagger’s girlfriend commits suicide

L’Wren Scott, fashion designer to the stars and Mick Jagger’s girlfriend was found dead on Mar. 17 in her Manhattan apartment, according to a UK Daily Mail report. The 47-year old’s body was discovered hanging in her apartment by her assistant.

According to the New York Daily Mail, the former model’s body was found hanging from a scarf on a doorknob around 10 a.m. There was no suicide note at the scene, and police do no suspect foul play, sources indicate. However, the Medical Examiner’s Office will determine a cause of death.

Scott launched her fashion designer career in 2006, and has garnered an impressive client roster including Nicole Kidman, Angelina Jolie and Christina Hendricks.

Jagger, who has been dating Scott since 2001 is “completely shocked and devastated.” ABC News reports that he is currently on tour with his band, and recently arrived in Australia. Prior to finding out the sad news, the rocker tweeted his excitement. “Looking forward to the first show in Perth,” he tweeted just four hours ago.

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When Would You Need A Car Accident Lawyer? Accidents aren’t really something you can avoid these days. You can be really careful but then that’s really not the only factor that’s involved as you also have to consider the recklessness of the other drivers as well. There comes a point when a driver gives up his keys after getting involved in one too many accidents. In most developed countries, this particular accident is typically one of the leading causes of death and that really comes as no surprise at all. If you ever become involved in this situation, possibly ending up the victim, you have to hire a car accident lawyer to represent you. It’s even more necessary when the particular party at fault would somehow delay the process of compensation claim in all the ways they can. It’s really difficult to have to go through this knowing you had nothing to do with the accident in the first place. Accidents occur more in the cities compared to the outskirts. There are tons of reckless drivers in the city and that really explains it all. You can deal with the aftermath of these situations a lot better when you hire these lawyers. A person’s negligent driving is something that should not go unpunished especially it victimized a lot of innocent people. At times, these collisions result in only damages of property. Of course, the party at fault would still need to provide the victim with ideal compensation for the damages done. If the victim is injured in any way then the one at fault would have to take care of all the medical expenses. You would need a lawyer to represent you in court just in case it gets to that point. Your lawyer quite possibly has experience in handling the more common car accident cases that happen every day.
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Darker Horse Creative’s 5th annual BEAUTY BASH

Fred Miller & Triphena Johnson cordially invites you to celebrate the beauty of giving at Darker Horse Creative’s 5th annual BEAUTY BASH! in association with our Media Partner Sophisticates Black Hair Magazine and our key sponsors Luster Products, Avalon Products, Soft Sheen-Carson, Creme of Nature, Clintex Laboratories, Mixed Chicks, and Remy Contreau. A portion of all proceeds to benefit Selected Autism Awareness Organizations. “The Puzzle” is the national ribbon color for Autism Awareness. We strive to impact not only those from the beauty world but all people who have needed the assistance of the organization to which we contribute for the year. Our philosophy is that even greater than those committed to creating physical beauty are those committed to the beauty of giving.

Come party with a purpose! It’s not just another beauty industry party. It’s a Bash! Sharing the beauty of giving and bringing awareness to Autism! A VIP Reception with a Remy V “hosted bar” and lite fare will be served from 7:00 – 8:00 pm only.

Music by DJ Mike Dunn! Come join the party!!

You will not want to miss the FANTASTIC Hair & Fashion Presentation brought to center stage by Kevin Pendleton and Team Texture of LUSTER Products!

Monday, June 23, 2014
7:00 pm – 12:00 am
Showtime Promptly at 9:00pm
Location: The Shrine 2109 S. Wabash Avenue
Chicago, IL. 60616

You don’t have to be in Chicago to assist. Make a contribution in any amount that fits you at anytime if you can’t attend.
The 2014 Dark Horse Creative (DHC) Vanguard award & Dark Horse Creative (DHC) Pacesetter award Honorees are:

President of Luster Products-Mr. Jory Luster Sr.
Celebrity Makeup artist -Mr. Joseph Hampton
Founders & Owners of Mixed Chicks- Ms. Kim Etheridge, & Ms. Wendi Levy
Celebrity Hair stylist & Artistic Style Director for Soft Sheen-Carson- Mr. Johnny Wright

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Attire: Cocktail
No Sports Attire Must be 21 for bar service !

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Are there ID requirements or an age limit to enter the event?- Yes, you must be 21
Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?-YES
What is the refund policy?-There are NO REFUNDS
What happens after the show?- Lights, Camera Action & Dancing the night away!
What’s the attire? Be Fun, Be Fabulous and Be Fashion Forward
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